We run for our lives, to make a living, to make a better living, to make more money, we are ready to leave our homeland for better prospects. It seems exciting at the beginning to survive until we encounter with a block or a little downfall.
In our busy lives, we sometimes forget the importance of relationships. Both husband and wife are working in most of the homes, as the needs have grown and toil day and night to make the ends meet. We take people for granted, hurt their feelings and don’t care for it until we are in need of their favor. When we are down with fever and unable to move even a muscle, a soul will be waiting beside you to touch your forehead and check the temperature. When you might feel it would be great if somebody cares for us, their eyes will reply you- “I am here for you”. This is what we ultimately need in a relation, their mere presence will give us strength and energy to shove away the blanket and take on our life.
As we hear love, it rings a bell letting the butterfly flutter from our hearts to the person we love. This might not be the person of opposite sex or an alluring teenage. We have been cherished by love and been growing with it. Every person comes through love in many ways. Here are my stages of love which has made me today.
First love is “AMMA” who is our source to this earthly paradise. She bears us since we were a tiny spec of life to till date. Once a baby forms in the womb, a women’s life is all directed to the new coming ones. She eats for us, prays for us, and brings us out risking her own life. She teaches us every single new thing in this world. Me being the only child, she forgave her career for my sake. She stood by my side cherishing me, supporting me, making me happy in every way she could. She still stands as my source of inspiration and example to be a better person.
Second comes “APPA”. Introduced by mother, he is an abode of sacrifice. He has been responsible of a big family after my grandfather’s demise, he started to work, save and give for the family first seconding him. After I came into his life, I became his first priority. He has never denied any of my wishes those were right for me. He would celebrate even my very little success to an Oscar. He has been my good friend. There were days when he would come back from work and I would be jumping to the doorstep to see him and narrate the entire happenings of the day no sooner did he enter the house. We used to go for long walks during weekends exploring unknown routes in neighborhood. Chiding me for my mistakes first and explaining me my fault was the best. He would enlighten me the right way so that I would not go to the wrong way. He is my great support for my strength and endurance.
Schooling is a beautiful period of ignorance being bliss. So many friends around that would make the school an exciting place in spite of knuckle breaking home works. Though I have come across many friends in school, there is one very good friend of mine called Swarna. We studied together for 4 years, third to sixth grade and then I had to move out of town. She had been in touch with me every now and then till date, sharing our lives together in the warmth of love and friendship.
Here comes college, a stage when we could feel the shackles break open letting us to taste the flavor of freedom. Starting from crushes, infatuation, chat friend, the list goes on with many people entering and exiting their ways. Amidst all these I found my set of friends whom I used to hang out with in class, after hours and at the hostel. Many friendships start building but only a few last after years. I have to mention my roommate whom I have had bitter fights many times. Yet we had the maturity to stand for each other during each other’s tough times and lasting till date. Other friends are from two sets that have made my beautiful college days memorable for lifetime. Life goes on after college, people get busy with their own priorities, but the love we shared in college keeps the relationship lingering in my memories though we might not be able to stay in touch as before.
Finally is my current stage where I have taken the role of a wife. Marriage was an exciting period, especially the courtship period waiting the d-day and trying to push the days by spending almost the entire day through the phone. Sharing becomes interesting and exhilarating when it is with the person we love. Getting to know each other, celebrating love in every little aspect, cherishing and appreciating each other has been the being since one year. Beginning at enjoying the little non-sense talks or PJs, making it at the last moment and celebrating it as a success in a race, calling our parents to show our home, new exciting things, creating a memorabilia for special occasions, till the good nights and cuddling before sleep are the every moment I cherish in this period of love. Love is in the air all the time in between the hurry burry, small tiffs and boredom. This relationship of love has given me the maturity to understand the other relationship better.
Love makes the world go round. Love has taught me the importance of relationship. It might seem like a hyperbole, but just love can fetch us happiness. Wondering how? Even if we come across a disaster, right support from our loved ones, trust and encouragement can help us recover and spring back to the next step. In this busy life, where people don’t even have time to greet each other, space
out some time for love. You will feel the significance of life and lucky to be alive.
The love for our mother never goes dry even after so many expressions. Having written about the greatness of mom, exuding all my love for her, I still have enormous to say. But they say that girls are daddy’s pet. Yes I am and how can I not share the highness of my dad? When people used to question me if I was mummies or daddy’s pet, it would respond with a reflex that am a Daddy’s girl. Though the closeness with my mom evolved with the passage of time, dad was my first companion.
It is the basic physics of opposite attracts that makes the world go around. Every soon to be dad would expect to have a little girl baby and the soon to be mom, the vice versa. He dears to see her little angel smile, besides the most powerful watts bulb, her smile is the everlasting flash that lights up his life. He teaches her to walk, and when the tiny nimble fingers wrap his index finger, he is run-off with pride and confidence. The sense of wholeness fulfills his mind when he thinks of his life with the amazing magic show of the fairy.
He might be the only bread maker in the family. Even though he is ignorant of the kid’s stuffs, he takes an extra mile to know about it and find the best for his daughter. Father plays an essential part in the child’s social stability, problem solving skills, and those activities which involves the left brain. The right brain is much active in female and so it is the father who activates the left brain of his fairy. In fact as proved by a study, the way in which a fatherless girl views the opposite sex in the outside world, moving with them is tainted. He is the source of the girl’s confidence to face this elusive world.
A belief prevails that, women are emotional than men, but the fact is men are much more attached and passionate; while women are pragmatic towards life. They are not very expressive as females. A Father knows not to measure the love he showers for his kid. Even without the outright demand, her father grants every wish of hers with just a cute little wink from her and he will be the happiest when his kid beams with joy.
He would be offended on seeing his kid is hurt by a thorn or a bump and to evacuate it, he will pounce on his spouse for being careless. He might be miles away from his family for official reasons, but he will make it mandatory to visit them during weekends, no matter the distance is. He would celebrate and appreciate you like no other in the world, here I have an experience, and I was in secondary level at school, had won an intra-school shuttle badminton tournament. Though my dad was away for work, he brought a whole bundle of chocolates to treat me. He never has a boundary for his love. He would buy a huge chocolate cake on asking for a piece of cake as a snack. He would never count his penny to bring in the joy.
He having experienced diverse people all through his life, his age and experience adds strength to our living today. You go to him sighting some problem, he will enunciate the facts in black and white, which might be piercing, but following his words will certainly lead us to a better living. His experience is our backbone today.
There were days when we would go around on leisurely walks holding your hands with no fear or anxiety of life. I had a person who would go to any extent to save me or make my day. Have learnt a million things from you dad. I would be the little companion to ride around the peaceful city on a beautiful weekend evening. You were the one who encouraged me when I was down with the fear to face a challenge, the one who would carry me to the hospital when I was bed-ridden at the odd hours, the one who showed the stronger side in me to face life with confidence.
There might have been times; when he would have been wounded by our words or actions. But every one of us will realize his importance at a certain juncture of life. This is an opportunity for me, and I am really blessed to have got you in my life and proud of you Pa, you have made my life today and really sorry if I had hurt you or I had put you through misery. Love you DAD.
A refreshing, much-awaited, long time dreamt period for every girl. Entry of a so called stranger into my life, gave a new experience for lifetime. A sense of objection, trying to pull me back from opening up, something tells me from within to watch out, be matured, give your best impression, and though have never been clever enough to be so. To the surprise, the first conversation ever, brought the sense of ease, broke the ice barrier, and gave a friendly impression of the person. Though was angry as I had to miss the get-together with my friends and he was the sole reason for it, these thoughts vanished after the first conversation. Was he smart enough to impress me or do I really like him from within? This kept ringing in my mind. The sense of nervousness to meet my future in-laws, a fear of rejection, preparing my mind to take up anything was the toughest task. Well-wishers advising the way I should present myself, things to be clarified, suggestions to speak with him, my inner voice agitating me and the mind trying to control me. There came the awaited ones, amongst the fanfare created by my kith and kin. I was eager to look at him in person, a sigh of relief bringing me closer to him. The second barrier is also shattered, his friendly nature and gesture put me at ease, a very amicable person and friendly to hang out with, was the impression he inscribed in me. It was an impact, was it because of the gaga created by my kinsmen or have I really been floored by his entry? Nothing occurred as per the fear; everything had fallen into place as it has been destined to. My in-laws were happy with me, my fellow men awaiting my green signal, my foremost priority of friendliness was fulfilled and I too passed on with a green signal. It all started there, though only the first step was completed, we felt very good with each other and started conversing over the phone. The excitement was at its pinnacle about the new relation in the pipeline, both of us were ready to open up and give out our views about our perspective of life. It was surprising to know that he was almost the same as me, this changed the first perspective of me and I was not a believer of horoscope and stuff. We were told that our horoscopes matched for about 90%, i.e., the maximum extent possible. It was when I started believing in destiny and time. Everything fell right into place and I started looking forward to life, having been hit by recession, rejection and disappointment, I was leading to life just for the sake. This new change of route brought a refreshing change in me, started to learn my future aspects, like cooking, house maintenance, understanding my guy, giving him the best company he expects out of me. This start has given me a good reason to live my life to the fullest with new hopes and beliefs. Every girl will encounter this excitement and it is truly a golden period and will help to prepare for the next stage of life. A period of instability creating a potpourri of emotions and causing the fleet of butterflies in stomach. A new person’s entry into our life and the fear of leaving my parents fighting in my heart. This is the best and exciting part of women’s life.
