The art of forgetting!!

All of us have been there. Been a kid, was so immaculate, unadulterated in thoughts and looks. We were close to nature, just the way god wanted us. As we grew up we learnt to live, learnt to talk, learnt to face people around us. As we gain various experience from the society, we learn the tricks and trades of survival.
Now we can be diplomatic, learning to handle all kinds of people though still a few can come as a shock to us. While we were that young, we dint know how to handle many situations. We ran to our teachers or parents for help. Now we cant do that too. We blow up our emotions are hide it forever. Sometimes we think we better not talk than to express it.

Just imagine how calm this world would be if we had not lost the art of forgetting.
The kids are adept in it. They play with their best friend all the time, help them, and push them away showing their anger of no reason; which might seem as a humongous excuse to ignore them. They go around, play with other friends, and come running back looking for their best friend, forgetting their pent up anger. The friend also accepts it and they walk along together again. Wouldn't it be great if all of our lives were such a beautiful fairy tale?

A New Start, A New Opportunity!

A new start to life,

To be a wonderful wife;

Reach out to my parents,

And be a caring daughter.

A new slate is here to scribble,

All my hits and miss;

To turn back on 31st,

And cherish the best.

I thank god for a new opening,

And this experience of life;

Which makes me unique,

With best and specks on me.

Two more to go...

                       No sooner we see Friday in our calendars, a big grin shines on our face from one end to another. We toil all over the week and wait for those two magical days of rest (which we assume) that crosses even before we greet for Saturday. Even after we know this dirty truth we still wait like dogs with their tongue hanging out for bones. We always to to extend the Friday as much as we can by going for a movie, taking to a friend after a long time, sitting idle in front of a television and stare at the clock to make sure it doesn't move further to Saturday (which it does devotedly). If I had two hours extra, I would be like this kid. :)

If only I had two hours extra, I would,.....

1. Talk to my friends with whom I have not been in touch with lately: We all dream to get back our college days, be amongst friends with our 11th hour exam preparation, surprizing friends on birthdays with cakes even though we never earned money. We were happily enjoying the bliss of life in between maturity and responsibility. We get busy with our lives as days pass  by, we earn and become responsible but never find time to spend those precious time with friends.

2. Be a company: Being with our parents is itself a bliss, they don't expect us to be a rich person, all they need is our presence. Even though I was near them for sometime I dint realize its significance, now I know how much I want to be with them just to chat our minds, helping mom in her kitchen, working on Sudoku with dad as soon as we get newspaper, read some books for my grandma.

3. Regroup: We are not always the ones we want to be. As situation comes we change our color like a chameleon. I would like to sit and think about my previous mistakes and make an attempt to set them right. We are all good, all it takes to be a really good is a little bit of courage to stamp our ego and move further.

4. Walk silently on a busy road to watch people get on with their work will bring varied thoughts in my mind. I would also go for a stroll at the beach just to stand and stare.

5. Would definitely spend more time with my hubby. Hope he gets the extra two hours too :)

6. I would like to contribute to our community by spreading the awareness about recycling and proper disposal, I found a video in which a team of youth were renovating a very smelly wall on roadside in Bangalore. I would love to do a similar job in the place I live.

When Surf Excel Matic - Get smart, gives us extra hours to relax is like a double bonus, never worry about our laundry stains and have peace for those two hours.

Change is here...

There have been times when you are popping up like a jack in the box on the arrival of your birthday. Going around telling people about your special day, showing off the new dress, talking about the gifts from parents, sharing chocolates. Those are the ages of ignorance with exuberance. Then you come across a few years where you feel weird before the celebration, a doubt of whether to boast about your birthday or to go unnoticed. This continues for a few years. Then you realize why do you get birthdays, why should we celebrate it. When you conceive this idea, it is the result of the effects of aging, but does it really means that we are aging or realizing about aging. Some people feel this even when they are in their twenty's and some don't feel even at fifty's. The notion has no effect on us but what we can do if we feel this at early age? Just wake up and be a kid again :)

“I am here for you “

We run for our lives, to make a living, to make a better living, to make more money, we are ready to leave our homeland for better prospects. It seems exciting at the beginning to survive until we encounter with a block or a little downfall.

In our busy lives, we sometimes forget the importance of relationships. Both husband and wife are working in most of the homes, as the needs have grown and toil day and night to make the ends meet. We take people for granted, hurt their feelings and don’t care for it until we are in need of their favor. When we are down with fever and unable to move even a muscle, a soul will be waiting beside you to touch your forehead and check the temperature. When you might feel it would be great if somebody cares for us, their eyes will reply you- “I am here for you”. This is what we ultimately need in a relation, their mere presence will give us strength and energy to shove away the blanket and take on our life.

Whatever life gives me

I will make it better for you,

I will make it easier for you

In times of distress and sickness

In times of success and happiness

I will always be here when,

you turn around in search of me.

P.S: A dedication to my loving Husband.

Mood swings?? It might be an idle mind!!

Are you getting angry over petty stuffs? Feel like taking on an argument for it? Are you hyperventilating? Digging your past memories to support your standpoint? RED Alert!!!

Do not continue to argue. Move out of the situation, drink water to cool you down, take a deep breath. Give it a break. Sit down and think what made you to argue over an insignificant situation.

There might be a lot of reasons,

• health related
• stressful life

but if it is not either of these, it might be an idle mind. This is what they call “An idle mind, is a devil's workshop”. Is it an end of a holiday? You might not want to get into the groove of routine. Make a pledge to work on something, to change your mood. There might be stuffs to be cleaned in the house, or a long pending hobby to be done with, or a call to a friend that has been postponed over the blame of routine. Involve these activities and when you are done, your mind will tell you why you reacted in that way.

Hope this works as a part of anger-management.

Be Happy!! Cheers!!

Best Marriage Proposal.. I think so too...

                       Marriages are mostly arranged according to our custom and tradition. But with the influence of western culture, Love marriages are increasing exponentially. Here is an interesting video that i came across from Yahoo. I am not sure how many of you have seen this before my post. I really loved the way the guy proposed and was so dramatic like a movie, that it has gained the tag "The Best Marriage Proposal Ever". Though it was the western culture of proposal, it impressed me due to the guy's respect to girl's family. Hope this will make you smile wider and wider moving till the end. And this can be used by the guys who are planning to propose!! Best wishes all out there!! Get Inspired :)

Withdrawn

A cozy night, after a busy long day;

Engrossed in work with his laptop

Was her love unnoticing her presence.

Admiring him silently she was into the room,

Slithering  beside him in need of warmth;

She overspoke her mind in excitement.

Thoughts conveyed wrongly,

Turns her down, lost in his world.

Sensitive damsel unknowing her way to explain,

Retreats in silence

Awaiting his call.

P.S: My first attempt of poem. Am not sureif it is really one. Suggestions & corrections welcome. J

The Man behind Me:

The love for our mother never goes dry even after so many expressions. Having written about the greatness of mom, exuding all my love for her, I still have enormous to say. But they say that girls are daddy’s pet. Yes I am and how can I not share the highness of my dad? When people used to question me if I was mummies or daddy’s pet, it would respond with a reflex that am a Daddy’s girl. Though the closeness with my mom evolved with the passage of time, dad was my first companion.

It is the basic physics of opposite attracts that makes the world go around. Every soon to be dad would expect to have a little girl baby and the soon to be mom, the vice versa. He dears to see her little angel smile, besides the most powerful watts bulb, her smile is the everlasting flash that lights up his life. He teaches her to walk, and when the tiny nimble fingers wrap his index finger, he is run-off with pride and confidence. The sense of wholeness fulfills his mind when he thinks of his life with the amazing magic show of the fairy.

He might be the only bread maker in the family. Even though he is ignorant of the kid’s stuffs, he takes an extra mile to know about it and find the best for his daughter. Father plays an essential part in the child’s social stability, problem solving skills, and those activities which involves the left brain. The right brain is much active in female and so it is the father who activates the left brain of his fairy. In fact as proved by a study, the way in which a fatherless girl views the opposite sex in the outside world, moving with them is tainted. He is the source of the girl’s confidence to face this elusive world.

A belief prevails that, women are emotional than men, but the fact is men are much more attached and passionate; while women are pragmatic towards life. They are not very expressive as females. A Father knows not to measure the love he showers for his kid. Even without the outright demand, her father grants every wish of hers with just a cute little wink from her and he will be the happiest when his kid beams with joy.
He would be offended on seeing his kid is hurt by a thorn or a bump and to evacuate it, he will pounce on his spouse for being careless. He might be miles away from his family for official reasons, but he will make it mandatory to visit them during weekends, no matter the distance is. He would celebrate and appreciate you like no other in the world, here I have an experience, and I was in secondary level at school, had won an intra-school shuttle badminton tournament. Though my dad was away for work, he brought a whole bundle of chocolates to treat me. He never has a boundary for his love. He would buy a huge chocolate cake on asking for a piece of cake as a snack. He would never count his penny to bring in the joy.

He having experienced diverse people all through his life, his age and experience adds strength to our living today. You go to him sighting some problem, he will enunciate the facts in black and white, which might be piercing, but following his words will certainly lead us to a better living. His experience is our backbone today.

There were days when we would go around on leisurely walks holding your hands with no fear or anxiety of life. I had a person who would go to any extent to save me or make my day. Have learnt a million things from you dad. I would be the little companion to ride around the peaceful city on a beautiful weekend evening. You were the one who encouraged me when I was down with the fear to face a challenge, the one who would carry me to the hospital when I was bed-ridden at the odd hours, the one who showed the stronger side in me to face life with confidence.

There might have been times; when he would have been wounded by our words or actions. But every one of us will realize his importance at a certain juncture of life. This is an opportunity for me, and I am really blessed to have got you in my life and proud of you Pa, you have made my life today and really sorry if I had hurt you or I had put you through misery. Love you DAD.

In Search of the Dearest one.......

It was a beautiful day at home, enjoying the company of my parents, relatives nearby visiting our place along with stretched hour chats. It was bed time and each of us hit the bed at our convenient schedule. I was late that day too, because of late hour’s phone call from to be dear ones, browsing the net to pull in sleep in my eyes. My eyes started to shut down just as the monitor would flicker with the lack of sufficient power supply. I brushed my teeth and grasped my pillow tight to sleep. The minty flavor of the tooth-paste gave a pinch of freshness in me.

I started to stare at the ceiling above me, having lost myself in thoughts. I was halfway through my sleep and I woke up suddenly looking out for my mother who would usually sleep beside me. I hear a voice saying that she is not here. I am struck in a shock like that of a thunder which hits a tree to ashes. Was running all around our home looking out for her.

I wish I had wings as that of a unicorn so that I can reach various places in a jiffy. It was fear and anxiety filled in my eyes, fear of losing her, deep thoughts of her love and affection flash my mind as I run. Tears were ready to drip down my cheeks as I was unable to imbibe the news heard. Suddenly I am out of my sleep and I wake up looking for her beside me. Then I recognized the reality of time and I was miles and miles away from her with my husband beside me. It is not at our home with my parents, it is my new life. Though my mind woke up from the illusion, tears drenched my cheeks after this horrible dream on the early hours of the day. Am not superstitious one, but I do believe that dreams have a reflection of our minds and predict the future. No sooner did I wake up, I browsed the internet about the dream of death. To my sense of relief, it stated as a good sign in most cases. I could not come out of this dream for a long time. I wish this turns out to be a good one for you mom, blessing you with a long and healthy life. Mom, I might be thousands of miles away from you, but my mind always keeps thinking about you. I mean that I want to be near you, spend time with you and be your source of happiness. I Love you so much and I Miss you MOM.

AWAITING YOU….

It has been quite a wait, then dawned a beautiful morning. I was excitingly heading towards the airport. I never stopped showing my excitement to my dear one who was driving and showing his excitement too. Parents are arriving from INDIA… WOW!! No sooner did I see them waiting with their luggage, my heart was bouncing with joy. I ran towards them and hugged them tightly; there peeped a tear of happiness and relief. A sigh of relief came up as I have got a full time company, a soul to care for me, help me in cooking, and kill time in a better way. And towards our way back home, they were explaining about their travel experiences. I was in turn recapping my experiences to them.

It was a beautiful summer, with the breakup of daytime silence. Our home was filled with care, love, affection even more as there were two more to contribute. We happily went around showing them the places around, having a beautiful and a peaceful walk. They enjoyed the sight of new country filled with a lush of green everywhere. Of course they dint feel the heat as it is comparatively low from the homeland. We enjoyed our weekends, visiting a few lakes around, showing them the Indian temple here. I enjoyed the whole day with them expelling loneliness out of my way which was better than pushing the loneliness out of the house by myself all through the day till the evening. Getting new tips in cooking, learning basic stuffs which I was unaware these days was an exciting learning experience which I had missed immediately after my marriage. Chitchatting the day with various topics that ran across our minds, and I was never idle and I liked it. It was indeed a beautiful summer.

But when are they coming here? Expecting them soon!! Expecting and waiting to experience all those I had quoted above which are only a few of all my wishes. We are waiting for you!! This is dedicated to both of our parents. We really miss you and our country..

The Saline Elixir.

 It was a gloomy day, began with a mild friction. Rome was not built in a day. Similarly is our character and perspective. Though we change our perspective, the previous behavior doesn’t seem to leave its roots. Idle mind is a devil’s workshop proves right many a times. Even though we try to stay with the present, we are reminded of our faults and unachieved destinations. Our friends will not want to hurt us, but pacifying the mind about an inexistent situation, pours the evil of pessimism and brings that alive. I hope every one of us would have experienced the same ripples of feeling low in our minds. What can be the remedy? Where can I find it?

A skimp of comparison at these situations will pour oil into the flame. Whom can we lean on? Our loved ones? Our soul mate? But if they are not beside you at that instant? Our heart will cry...” Oh why is there anybody with me? Will anybody be with me if I am upset? Or will I be in solitude?” It found shelter under the eyelids and besought the tears. It might be looked upon us as a faint-heart. But she is the one who lends us her shoulder to soak up our fear, low-esteem and pessimism. I (heart) never told her my pain, my pricking confusion, but I spoke with her through her (tears). She listened to me in silence. After a jiffy, i felt at ease, the clouds had cleared off its place. I realized what should be done to make the best out of the situation instead of grieving over the inexistence. This is when the mind which was in sleep under the shadow of clouds, took over the power.

The healing mother “Nature” gives the best booster dose. Even when she is silent, heals our pain and brings back the charm in us. What if we look at a rainbow extending her arms wide enough to embrace us with brightness filled in her? She unveils her beauty which gets us dumbstruck to such an extent that we forget the wound. Whenever you feel like crying do not stop, if not in public, do it at the restroom, shed her out and she is sure to bring in the ease.

Perspective turnover at the First Encounter:

A refreshing, much-awaited, long time dreamt period for every girl. Entry of a so called stranger into my life, gave a new experience for lifetime. A sense of objection, trying to pull me back from opening up, something tells me from within to watch out, be matured, give your best impression, and though have never been clever enough to be so. To the surprise, the first conversation ever, brought the sense of ease, broke the ice barrier, and gave a friendly impression of the person. Though was angry as I had to miss the get-together with my friends and he was the sole reason for it, these thoughts vanished after the first conversation. Was he smart enough to impress me or do I really like him from within? This kept ringing in my mind. The sense of nervousness to meet my future in-laws, a fear of rejection, preparing my mind to take up anything was the toughest task. Well-wishers advising the way I should present myself, things to be clarified, suggestions to speak with him, my inner voice agitating me and the mind trying to control me. There came the awaited ones, amongst the fanfare created by my kith and kin. I was eager to look at him in person, a sigh of relief bringing me closer to him. The second barrier is also shattered, his friendly nature and gesture put me at ease, a very amicable person and friendly to hang out with, was the impression he inscribed in me. It was an impact, was it because of the gaga created by my kinsmen or have I really been floored by his entry? Nothing occurred as per the fear; everything had fallen into place as it has been destined to. My in-laws were happy with me, my fellow men awaiting my green signal, my foremost priority of friendliness was fulfilled and I too passed on with a green signal. 
It all started there, though only the first step was completed, we felt very good with each other and started conversing over the phone. The excitement was at its pinnacle about the new relation in the pipeline, both of us were ready to open up and give out our views about our perspective of life. It was surprising to know that he was almost the same as me, this changed the first perspective of me and I was not a believer of horoscope and stuff. We were told that our horoscopes matched for about 90%, i.e., the maximum extent possible. It was when I started believing in destiny and time. Everything fell right into place and I started looking forward to life, having been hit by recession, rejection and disappointment, I was leading to life just for the sake. This new change of route brought a refreshing change in me, started to learn my future aspects, like cooking, house maintenance, understanding my guy, giving him the best company he expects out of me. This start has given me a good reason to live my life to the fullest with new hopes and beliefs. Every girl will encounter this excitement and it is truly a golden period and will help to prepare for the next stage of life. A period of instability creating a potpourri of emotions and causing the fleet of butterflies in stomach. A new person’s entry into our life and the fear of leaving my parents fighting in my heart. This is the best and exciting part of women’s life.